What’s The Episode About:
In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the Yellow Brick Road, a tool that they created to help people learn how life works, and what is required to move from one level of life to another. They teach the tool to all their students, and Stacey even taught an expanded version of it to 5,000 entrepreneurs at a Funnel Hacking Live.
In the movie, The Wizard of Oz, there is a yellow brick road that people follow to get to Oz, and that yellow brick road that Paul and Stacey created is somewhat similar in that when we are talking about life, everybody has an Oz. That Oz could be a goal, an outcome, or a purpose, and for every Oz, there is a yellow brick road that one must follow to achieve it or get to it.
The yellow brick road looks more like a video game with different levels, and it has all of the lessons, challenges, and experiences to prepare a person to be the version of themselves that they need to be in order to reach and hold their Oz. Like with every video game, when one fails at one level, they can’t go on to the next one until they’ve repeated the one they’ve failed at and succeeded. And that’s the exact same way that life works.
Paul and Stacey will expound more on that in this episode, and if you listen in, you can expect that it will definitely change your life for the better. Enjoy!
Key Points Discussed:
- We can’t compare ourselves to others because everyone is on their own unique yellow brick road (01:57)
- Understanding how life works by understanding the squares on your yellow brick road (02:54)
- Facing it, owning it, and solving it so you can qualify to move on (04:35)
- How to become the person that you need to be to go to the next and better level in life (07:16)
- Nobody else can resolve the issues for us (08:27)
- Knowing what the yellow brick ahead is like by reaching for the hand of Vlad (12:26)
- Being the observer instead of judging or valuating or getting triggered by appreciating that everybody has their own yellow brick road. (16:43)
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Paul: 00:00 Hey relationship transformers. Welcome to the Relationship Transformers podcast. Stacey and I created a tool called the Yellow Brick Road. We teach it to all of our students, and Stacey even taught an expanded version of this tool to 5,000 entrepreneurs on the stage at Funnel Hacking Live. This tool is a fundamental tool that allows you to know how life works, and what is required in order to get to your next level. So let’s queue up the intro and dive in.
Intro: 00:30 So the big question is this, how is it possible that one person alone can transform any relationship, save their marriage, great their unshakeable love and unleash passion, divorce, proof their family without needing their partner to get on board and do this with them and yet still get to be happily, authentically you without compromise. That is the question and this podcast will give you the answer. We are Paul and Stacey Martino and welcome to the Relationship Transformer podcast. We are Paul and Stacey Martino and welcome to the Relationship Transformer podcast.
Stacey: 00:58 Alright. So, you’ve probably seen the movie, “The Wizard of Oz”, right? You remember that movie? And the whole thing is, you follow the Yellow Brick Road to get to Oz. And so, the tool that Paul and I created and the way that we teach this is, everybody has an Oz, something that they’re trying to get to. You have an Oz, a goal, an outcome, your calling, your purpose, your mountain. Whatever it is for you, you have an Oz. Can you associate with that right now? Like, I have an Oz, this is what my Oz is. Well, there’s a yellow brick road to your Oz. There is yellow brick road to every Oz. And so, here’s what I want you to get. First of all, the dynamic is, everybody has an Oz and everybody has their own Oz, which means that everyone is on their own yellow brick road.
Stacey: 01:57 So, when you look to the right and to the left, when you look at yourself compared to someone else, just stop, because they’re on their own journey to their own Oz. They have their yellow brick road. You have yours. Stop judging yourself by looking right or left. Your Oz has your yellow brick road with all of your lessons, and your challenges, and your experiences, to prepare you to be the version of yourself that you need to be in order to reach and hold your Oz. And that is a different yellow brick road than someone else has to their own Oz. So, when it comes to comparison and the pain that comes from comparison and judgment, just stop, and first understand and accept how life works. Everyone has their individual Oz, and everyone’s yellow brick road to their Oz is different from everyone else’s. So, there is one level.
Stacey: 02:54 Now, the next level of yellow brick road is understanding how life works by understanding the squares on your yellow brick road, the bricks on your yellow brick road. Now, the bricks on the yellow brick road were kind of like a video game. Have you ever played a video game or watched your kids play a video game? If you’re in level one in a video game, and you’re like, “Hey, you know what? This don’t look so fun. I want to do level 27. Can you go right from level one to level 27 in a video game?” So you should be saying no right about now, right? What has to happen on level one in order for you to advance, right? You have to win it, you have to solve it, you have to master level one, you have to whatever… you have to kill all the bad guys, or get all the points, or whatever you have to succeed at level one, and then you get to go to level 27.
Stacey: 03:47 No, level two is next and you need to actually master level two. And have you ever watched your kids play video games, right? And they lose in the middle of a level, and what happens when you lose in a level? Do they say, “Oh, no problem. You lost level two. Here, you’ll start again in level three. No, they don’t. What happened? You start level two all over again, right? And you have to repeat level two as many times as it takes until you learn the lesson, and actually master the challenges of level two. So you win. Why? Because you need to be the version of yourself with the skills and tools to master level two, in order to be able to enter level three and handle level three, and the video game knows that, right?
Stacey: 04:35 And so does the universe because that’s exactly how the bricks on your yellow brick road work. They’re kind of like the levels in a video game, whatever square you’re on right now. So wherever you are right now, if you’re somewhere where you can close your eyes, great. If you’re driving, don’t do that. But just imagine yourself on the square that you’re on now on your yellow brick road and you know where what your eyes is, right? You can see it in the distance, however close or far you feel like you are on your yellow brick road towards your eyes in order to get to the next brick on your yellow brick road in order to get to the next square. Here’s the key, my friends, you must be willing to face it, own it and solve it, and then you qualify to move on. What do I mean by that?
Stacey: 05:28 Whatever challenges or problems are coming at you on the square that you’re on, on your yellow brick road, the current square, you must face it, own it, and solve it in order to qualify to advance to the next square in your yellow brick road. You can’t just bitch about it. You can’t just complain about it. You can’t blame everybody else about it. You can’t wait around on your square and wait for everybody to fix all of this stuff for you. You don’t get to move to your next square like that. It’s only when you face it, meaning stop avoiding it. Stop ignoring it. Face it and be honest about it. Own it. Take personal responsibility for it. Even if it’s not your fault. Stop blaming, stop pointing. Stop waiting for someone else to solve it and own it. Extreme ownership, 100% total ownership. Solve it.
Stacey: 06:25 Reached for the hand of Vlad. Find out who knows this. Just like the kids in the video games. Look up all the codes for what they need to do from the masters who’ve done it already reached for your hand of lads. You can solve whatever these issues or challenges are. And then you get to move on. You get to move on to your next square in the yellow brick road. And guess what? That next square in your yellow brick road will have new challenges, new problems. That’s okay. It’s better quality challenges, better quality problems. You’re becoming a better, stronger version of yourself, more authentically you. And guess what? You’re getting closer and closer and closer to the us. And so you look at where you are in the square and you all the challenges and problems that are coming to you. You must face them, own them, and solve them and move on. You can’t ignore them. You can’t blame somebody else. And as you do that, you get to move from square to square to square to square. This is how life works.
Paul: 07:16 So there’s always going to be that person out there. I just want to say from our own experience who was like, well, this isn’t a video game and I’m just going to jump those levels anyway. Be really, you know, aggressive about, I don’t need those rules. I’ll do what I want. You know, hard achiever, while I love your spirit, here’s the thing that may be lost if you choose to decide, you can skip some levels in life because you’re not going to abide by any rules of the game. What happens is there was a gift in there that you would have missed. So if we try to jump from level one to 27 for example, you didn’t become the person that you needed to be to actually stay in that level in the pain. You’ll experience from learning the hard way at level 27 may bring you down. So while I honor your spirit, while I appreciate the fact that we need that kind of drive right, to make some success, you have to be smart and strategic about that success and the gift of understanding that this is how life works is embracing where you are mastering that level is. By the time you get to level 27 you earned it. You own it, you’re mastering it, and you’re right where you’re supposed to be. If you try to shortcut that process, the only one you’re shortcutting is yourself.
Stacey: 08:27 Amen. Amen. And so this is how life works. By the way, I don’t write the rules, I just report them. This is how the universe was set up. I didn’t do it. I’m just teaching you how it works, whether you like it or not. So I hope you use it. Now, there’s a couple of ways to utilize this tool. One, look at where you are right now on your yellow brick road and look at your eyes. How many squares are there going to be you and your eyes better yet? How long have you been stuck on the same square? How long, how long are you going to stay stuck there? Hope being that something’s going to get better, hoping that your partner’s going to change this, hoping that the kids are going to get older or the money problem’s going to go away, or the work stress is going to stop hoping that something else is going to resolve this for you.
Stacey: 09:23 How long are you willing to stay on that square? No one’s coming to save you. You must save you now. You can reach for the hand of lad. We can give you the tools and the strategies to move to the next square, but only if you’re willing to face it and own it first. If you still hold that false belief that someone else is gonna fix this for you, doesn’t matter how many tools I throw towards you, you’re not going to pick them up. And so just look at where you are honestly and understand how this works to move yourself to the next level. Now we use this yellow brick road for our students to we, Paul and I. No. What we’re doing, we have figured out relationship. I, it was our calling. I have no idea why this happened in our lifetime, but it did.
Stacey: 10:12 And at the end of the day, what happens is that turns out that there is no such relationship that we can’t solve. There’s no such relationship challenge that we haven’t been able to solve. And we’ve created these tools and these strategies in these methods. We understand what people’s Oz is now. Sometimes it starts out with their Oz being, I just want us to not cite so much where I want to get back to that amazing love and friendship that we used to have where I want that hot sex and playfulness to come back. And then at some point as you start to do this work and elevate your eyes, starts to become an unshakable love and unleashed passion. The best and most authentic, happiest life you can have, like vibrant, amazing parenting relationships and all of these things. Like we know what the Oz is for the people who come to us.
Stacey: 10:57 And so we’ve designed a yellow brick road to get them there. That’s what we do. We do this all day in and out. This is what we do. That’s how our relationship you program has a 99% success rate and a 1% of worst rate. Like this is what we do. And we have mastered the yellow brick road for people to help them get to their eyes if they want to take that yellow brick road. So if you see us in our programs, it’s really, really simple. In fact, we have a beautiful yellow brick road diagram in our relationship transformers Facebook group. I hope you’re in that group. Go. Just search in the search bar, yellow brick road, and the picture will come up to show you our yellow brick road, right? You start out with this podcast relationship transformers podcast is the first brick and the yellow brick road.
Stacey: 11:41 But you can’t get to us based on the first brick. Dorothy did not step on the first brick and they’re like, okay, movie’s over. She’s at Oz. Everybody go home like there. There’s more than one step you on a yellow brick road, right? So yes, it’s beneficial. You can’t get to Oz without navigating the first brick, but you’re not done. Right? So that’s why we created the 14 day boost program as a second brick and then it’s phenomenal and you’re going to have your be so much farther and you have all these great results and you’re not at Oz yet. So there’s the quick start program after that is the next step on the yellow brick road, which is also amazing and transformational and so much in your life is going to change and you might not be at your Oz yet. Right? And that’s why we have relationship.
Stacey: 12:26 You as the next step on the yellow brick road and we have the tools and the strategies and the frameworks laid out on every single one of those steps to face own and solve the challenges that find you as you escalate and ascend up your yellow brick road to your eyes. Like we know what your eyes is and we’ve designed as yellow brick road to solve it. Whatever it is in your life, whether it’s your health, your finances, your relationships, your spirituality. There you have an Oz and there’s a yellow brick road for it. And so understand that you know, you reach for the hand of lad, you find the yellow brick road that is the proven yellow brick road to get to that Oz and get on it right. Instead of wandering the forest wondering where the heck is the yellow brick road, at least get on it and that is a real key to having success in life. Knowing what it takes to get to your next level and how to get to your eyes,
Paul: 13:18 which is one of the key reasons. If you haven’t heard our podcast around why we call it the hand of lad, definitely check that out. The key reasons why you need that mentor and tribe and you need that. The hand of lad as we call it, is that one first thing that Stacy said, which is without it, you don’t know what the yellow brick road is ahead. Now, the person who is that mentor who’s already traveled that road already knows what your road looks like ahead without even knowing you, is like these are the things that you’re going to have to handle to become that person who can play at level 27 right? They’re the ones who see it with clarity, but otherwise, without that clarity, you’ll stay on most likely left to your own devices in your own comfort zone. You’re going to stay on that brick number one, maybe go to brick two and slip back to brick one and that’s exactly why we don’t do it on our own. Well,
Stacey: 14:03 awesome. So one more way to use this yellow brick road tool before we wrap this up is in your interactions with other people. Now, right now we’re recording this and it’s December. It’s the holiday season here. Whenever you’re using or listening to this podcast, this will serve you in whatever interactions you have. But especially with friends and family, we tend to have kerfuffle when friends and family get together or there’s that one friend or that one person’s spouse or one person at work that just, Oh, triggers us so much. Right. We have kerfuffle the next time you’re interacting with that person, keep this yellow brick road tool front and center and use it. Well, everyone is on this planet and everyone has their own Oz. You, your yellow brick road to your eyes. They have their yellow brick road to their eyes. They are not you. They’re not like you.
Stacey: 14:59 They’re not wired like you. They’re not on the same journey you are, and so yeah, they’re going to make different choices than you. Instead of being frustrated by that, just look over and notice, Oh, they’re on a totally different yellow brick crude than me. Okay. That’s interesting. Okay. That’s fascinating. Okay. I don’t really get it. Like that’s okay. You’re not on their yellow brick road. But so many times the kerfuffles that we have with our friends, with our family is because we’re evaluating what they’re doing, saying, thinking and being, and we’re judging it against ourselves. We experience the difference between them and us and we don’t like it because that means one of us is right and one of us is wrong and I’m not going to be wrong. Instead appreciate, okay, well they’re on their own yellow brick road and that’s up to them what square they go on.
Stacey: 15:47 Or if they go to the next one or if they slide back like that’s really between them and their creator. That’s none of my business. Like they’re on their own yellow brick road to their own Oz. And the purpose of their life PS was not to come here and serve life up to you the way you need it. Nobody else’s purpose was that everybody is on their own journey to their own Oz. So just take a deep breath in and appreciate the fact that you get to witness them on their yellow brick road to their eyes during this go round and allow that to help you be the observer instead of judging or valuating or getting triggered by appreciating that everybody has their own yellow brick road. I really hope that you can use that tool in that way too, and that that can serve you.
Paul: 16:34 All right, so we always want some action steps whenever we can. So let’s start with those. Number one, your first action step reflect what is your eyes. Number two, assess. Where are you on your yellow brick road? Number three, plan. When it comes to the current challenges on your square, how are you going to face it, own it, and solve it. Number four, take action to reach for the hand of lad to help you solve it so that you can ascend on your yellow brick road.
Stacey: 17:08 Awesome. If you’ve loved this podcast, take a screenshot of your phone, share it in social media, hashtag art T podcast hashtag relationship transformers tag me and help share it with those who need to hear it. And until next time, remember together we are changing the way relationship is done.
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